03 Feb President Hollandes girlfriend experiences heart break on a global scale
No matter what your political opinion on President Francois Hollande and Valérie Trierweiler, it cannot be denied that she is suffering heartbreak in the most public of arenas.
While most of us would hide away and deal with our emotions, she cannot. It is played out in the media with photos of the beautiful and talented “new girlfriend” in every newspaper and magazine. I feel for her as heartbreak pain is exquisite, it feels like a physical pain that you cannot fix with a bandage or medicine. We know that she is a strong woman, but heart break will rock the strongest of us to the core.
The hurt she feels from the betrayal is coupled with the inevitable loss of her privileged lifestyle that she has become used to as First Lady. We all struggle with a change in lifestyle as divorce or separation more often than not means cut backs and being careful what you spend. However she has much further to fall than most of us. She has not just lost her partner in life; she has lost her way of life, her high global profile and her role as First Lady. It’s a real loss of her identity which can be devastating to handle in the early days.
To deal with all this as well as the public humiliation that her partner has been unfaithful, and to make matters worse, with a beautiful successful woman, is a very bitter pill to swallow.
As we all do during a divorce, she is facing so many huge life decisions. But for her she faces the emotional roller-coaster under the unrelenting spotlight of immense media pressure. It’s hard enough to make decisions behind closed doors without anyone knowing, let alone when the whole world is waiting and watching.
I hope she has a good support team around her to help advice and support her. The people around you really do matter at times like these. It’s also key not to suppress the negative emotions that go hand in hand with heartbreak. She needs to take time to process her emotions away from the glaring lights so she can stay strong when she needs to be.
As I have advised many of my clients going through difficult times like this:
It’s important to stay true to who you are in these situations and trust your instinct. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you must keep one eye firmly on it.
We may be watching you Valérie Trierweiler, but it’s with compassion for your situation and the knowledge that your strength can see you through it.