“I like being on my own and I don’t want to meet anyone. Is there something wrong?”

“I like being on my own and I don’t want to meet anyone. Is there something wrong?”

No, there is nothing wrong at all. It is positive that you are happy on your own and don’t need a partner to fulfil you.

I know many people who are very happy being single. Everyone is different and reacts in different ways to divorce. No one situation is the same. Don’t feel pressure to listen to well-meaning friends who advise you to get back out there as soon as possible. You have to trust your instinct and do what you feel is right for you.

It may be that you have not been in full control of your life and were busy pleasing other people during your marriage. Now is the time for you to be in charge and actually be selfish for a while. You may not feel comfortable with this at first as it can take some getting used to when you are used to putting yourself second.

The great news is you will soon get back on a more even keel and begin enjoying your new found freedom. Listen to your instinct as often you will know what you need to do.

Every situation is unique and you have a chance now to redesign your life the way you want it to be. Take some time to think this through and don’t’ worry what everyone else thinks. It is your life so grab it with both hands and create the future YOU want to live.

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