“When my kids come home from being at my ex they seem quiet and reserved. Is this normal?”

“When my kids come home from being at my ex they seem quiet and reserved. Is this normal?”

Yes it is. Changing from one household to another can be unsettling for children and so it’s natural for them to take a short period of time to re-adjust.

Make sure you listen to what they need. Some prefer to have some space when they get home so ensure you give it to them. Others will want to be close to you. You know your children better than anyone so trust your instinct as to what they need from you. Put their needs before yours as you may have to wait a while for the cuddle you desperately want.

Do not bombard them with questions about their time away as they may feel in the middle of you and your ex. Let them tell you what they got up to in their own time. If you find this hard just focus your mind on the fact that they are back with you and be grateful for that.

If your children have any real issues from being away with your ex then make sure you get some professional help so that they are able to deal with any underlying concerns quickly. Often just having someone to talk to outside the situation is a big help for children.

Children are more resilient than you think and having at least one stable and consistent parent is worth its weight in gold.

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