06 Jan Divorce Day Focus Alert – The 12 best things about your break-up
“Divorce Day” is looming on Monday 8th January as law firms experience a surge in separation enquiries from couples after the festive period. It’s always a challenging time of year for relationships and many people find themselves facing a break-up at the start of the new year.
There is no doubt that break-ups are painful and can knock us off our feet and send us spiralling into overwhelm and sadness. They are known as the second most traumatic life experience and it can take time to work through grieving the end of something that meant so much to you.
However, the truth is that every break-up also has positives that you can focus on. I appreciate that you may find it hard to even consider these when you feel your world has ended, but if you really do want to feel better and speed up your healing process it is vital to take charge of what you focus on:
- You can focus more time on you. Many of us spend so much time looking after others we often neglect ourselves. Now you have an extra few moments in the day to indulge yourself without letting anyone else down or feeling guilty about prioritising you!
- You can choose who you spend time with. You no longer have to entertain friends or in-laws you don’t particularly like. You can reconnect with old friends you have lost touch with, male or female, and make new friends too.
- You are free to be yourself. No more compromising to make things run smoother. You can express your own opinions freely and don’t have to walk on eggshells in your own home.
- You can write your Break-Up Bucket List of all the things you can do now that you could never have done during your relationship. You can enjoy ticking them off your list!
- Your free time is your own. You can choose what you do, where you go and how you spend your weekends and evenings.
- You can redefine your boundaries on what YOU want from relationships, friendships or romantic partners. You don’t have to tolerate bad behaviour or settle for less than you deserve.
- Spring clean your life. Clear out all the things from your life that you don’t enjoy or make you feel bad. Don’t be afraid to detox unhealthy friendships too!
- Take some time to learn from past mistakes and work out what you really want and need from a partner. So when you are ready to date again you maximise the chances of a successful relationship.
- Rediscover who you are – after a long relationship you can lose a sense of your own identity – so take time out to figure out who you are, what you enjoy and what makes you tick now you are single.
- Building your self-reliance does wonders for your self-esteem and confidence. Learning to take full responsibility for your own life can be daunting but it will give you a huge boost to be back in the driving seat of your life.
- Book on my Break-Up Recovery Retreat – a two day empowering weekend learning simple and effective techniques and strategies to help you cope with any break-up. https://saradavison.com/break-up-recovery-retreat/
- You can create a future you are excited to live. You now have the chance to redesign your life just the way you want it. Take some time to think about the things you love and want to have more of in your life. Diarise them to make them happen and become a reality.
Break-ups give us a chance to get off the treadmill of our daily routine, stop and take stock of our lives and reassess where we are going. Remember that you only live once so we may as well make the most of it.
There are lots of things you can do to speed up your healing process and if you would like more information please do follow me on social media for daily tips and advice.
“It’s not what happens to you that defines you…. It’s what you DO about it that makes you the person you are.”
You can EITHER decide to let your break-up define you and drag it around as baggage for years to come
OR use it as a golden opportunity to create a different path in life that is rewarding, fulfilling and full of happiness.
It’s up to you and I’m here to help